The title of this post is a loaded question. "Why Am I On The Payroll?"
Do you know the answer to this question in your own professional life?
If you think you were hired to work and put in 40 hours, then you need to go to your managers office and ask the question. You were not hired to just put in time and then leave.
Let's explore this question with the answers from some other queries which may lend us a clue.
Are you on the payroll to "work?"
Or are you on the payroll to "accomplish something very specific?" What is that specific thing?
When is that specific thing due? (In other words what is the time table for completion?)
What are the "Results" that you were hired to deliver in order to be paid?
Can you perform and accomplish the goal of that thing is you don't know what it (the goal) is?
How possible is it to accomplish the end goal is you do not know what the bigger vision is?
Each of us has an image of who we are in our own eyes. We call this our "Self Esteem".
Each of us has an image of who we are in the eyes of others. We call this our "Reputation".
The only one who can build up or tear down these two sides of the same coin is you. Do you know how you determine this?
You determine this every day by what you do and what you fail to do. No one else has a hand in it.
Today, as you look back over what you have done at work, can you honestly say:
"I gave my highest and best value to my employer in my professional life." If you can answer, "yes" then you have just raised your self esteem and your reputation.
"I did only what I had to do that was right in front of me and I clocked out at 5 sharp." If this is your response, then you have just lowered your own self worth, and your reputation with your employer (whether he sees you or not, the negativity in the attitude remains there in the office.)
You can set your own bar for excellence, or if you are unwilling to do so, someone else will set it for you.
Leaders are all self disciplined. Leaders are self-directed. Leaders are all people who set deadlines and goals in place and work toward the greater vision.
Leaders go first. Leaders are on the payroll to accomplish something greater than themselves.
Why are you on the payroll?
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I believe it is incredible how a thread of thought can link from one person to another and mysteriously link to other thoughts around the world and suddenly that small nagging thing you were thinking about is everywhere all at the same time. I am not naive enough to think that the world wide web doesn't have something to do with it, however, when there is nothing out there and the thing comes back around like a boomerang that is another story.
Any one of you who reads this was once a teenager who thought you were invincible at some point in your early years. You may be the parent of one or more teenagers right now who do things that to an adult seem ridiculous, but to that teen with the mindset that they are impervious to injury, or accident, or failing this possibility does not exist.
Then the unthinkable happens; the teen gets a real dose of reality and the mindset is immediately replaced with another one. All over the media the past few weeks has been an uptick in the magnification of "how technology is changing our lives from a younger and younger age and the consequences that come with those choices in technology." There has been an emphasis with distraction and driving when we are on our cell phones or we are texting. The launch of the new organization of mothers against texting and driving has sparked a new resurgence. There are a few states where talking on a cell phone and texting while driving carry a hefty fine but those are few and far between. Even in the states where this is the law, people just pay the fine and do not change their habits. Even walking and texting is dangerous. The statistics for ER visits due to those who were injured bad enough to have medical treatment, didn't seem to matter. The behavior continued.
The second part of this piece has to do with what is the appropriate age to let your children begin to use this technology. This of course goes directly to parenting style and the maturity of the child involved.
I watched this morning as a news crew video taped pedestrians walking and texting and crossing a very busy city street and several were within inches of being hit while crossing when the do not cross sign was lit. After being showed the video of their almost demise, every one of them just shrugged it off and said no big deal (while continuing to text). What is so important that the texter cannot look away?
What will a teenager miss if she or he does not hang out at the mall, all day this Saturday? No one is immune. We all get into these places where it seems easier to just cave in than, stand on reason, principle, and what is best for the child. I am a big believer in the life of a child when they become responsible for their own thoughts and actions. Just because they can do something doesn't mean they should do that thing. The same is true for parents.
Just because you can doesn't mean you should. This goes to the fundamental building blocks that make up who we are at our core, in other words our character. How solid is yours? What about your child's foundational building blocks? What are you teaching them today? What are you modeling before them right now?
Take a good look at all of your behaviors in your life right now. Are you in the car looking at your phone and the RSS feed? Shame on you.
If for one split second you are distracted and you caused the death of another, how would your life change forever?
What if that life was the 8 year old sitting directly behind you?
If you are blowing this off, then you are one of the ones I am talking about. Nothing on earth is that important. Period.
What holds your attention so steadfastly today?
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What beliefs do I base my life on that are causing me to become fatigue? Now that is a thought provoking question. Do you have an immediate answer? If I am asked what does "Belief" mean, I have my own answer. What is your Belief? Do you go right to a religious definition? It could be that for you. If I ask you a very personal question, and you answer, "I don't Believe so." You have just expressed one of your "Beliefs".
In the last 10 years there have been many, horrific natural disasters. Think of the one which really made you look up at the TV or to go online and research about it. Now if I ask you: What is your "belief" about helping others in their time of need? What is your answer? That is your "Belief" about helping others.
What about this? Your best friend is cheating on her husband. You are a witness to this. When you are in the company of the married couple you feel….how? What is your "Belief" about fidelity? What is your "Belief" about keeping a secret? What is your "Belief" about being a good friend?
Do you begin to understand how every day you are making decisions based on your personal "Belief" system?
When you make the decision, you put certain chemical reactions into play within your brain, which do their job very well, producing, anxiety, worry, acid in your stomach, restricted blood vessels in your head and you get all kinds of unpleasant side affects. These are all indicators that your "True Belief System" is something other than what you just decided. This is called being "Incongruent". That simply means that your inside do not agreed with your outside behavior, thoughts, actions,words and so on.
The opposite is also true. When you make a decision and it agrees or is in alignment or what is called "Congruent" with who you are at your core and what you believe, you feel a rush of endorphins. You smile, and if you have gone out on a limb to stand up for something that you believe, you may feel flushed, a rush of heat, jittery and yet really good that you stood up for yourself and what your belief is.
Which one of these scenarios do you think causes "Fatigue" ?
You would be correct, The answer is the first one.
Now you connect the dots over these past 8 posts and see how we as women (and men too) can become highly fatigued in many ways in our daily lives.
Want to know how to solve this one?
You need to come to terms with what you believe.
You need to know what that belief is based on. (Are you still living with the beliefs of your parents, even if they are not yours?)
You need to have conviction about those beliefs and stand up on them when they are ridiculed, taunted, violated, and stomped on.
Do you know how to go through your beliefs and how to put into words what you believe about the things in your life that are the most important?
If you do not; then you are a perfect student for the "Discovering Eve" program.
In this program, we get down to the business of knowing who you are, what you believe in all areas of your life.
It's coming soon, be on the lookout!
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